On my tumblr recently, I received the following question:
Hey 🙂 don’t really know where to put this as it’s not a problem, but a response to something you have posted on this blog. Feel free to move it if you think it’s in the wrong place!
You said you don’t understand why people intentionally gain weight. I was just wondering whether you understand why people intentionally lose weight? And whether you think it’s wrong for somebody to intentionally gain/lose weight?
I’m not exactly intentionally gaining weight, but I’ve gained weight, and I know I’m going to gain more weight, and I’m not going to do anything about it because I actually quite like it. I’m not actively eating more to gain weight or anything, but I’m letting myself gain weight, cos I’m miserable when I have to watch what I eat, and I have no problem with getting bigger.
How do you feel about that? Just interested cos what you said earlier made me wonder!
Lots of love xxxxxxxxx
My answer was as follows:
Generally speaking, no, I don’t know why people want to lose weight.
That being said, I know why I personally want to lose weight. But my situation is a lot different than most casual dieters who just want to get rid of 10, 15, 30 pounds. I’m one of a very small percentage of people who weigh this much. (exact weight unknown, but it’s a lot.)
(Edit 9/25/2011: I originally listed myriad reasons why I personally wanted to lose weight. But after careful consideration, I’ve decided to take that list of reasons down. For many reasons, but predominately because it has nothing to do with the main point of this post.)
To me, gaining weight is very, very personal, because it’s all I’ve ever known. I would never wish what I’ve been through on anyone. But at the same time, I respect people’s autonomy, and if that’s what they want to do, they have every right to.
I hope this helps!
I caught some flack from this, for even deigning to talk about wanting to lose weight. So I need to make something clear to anyone who reads this blog, wherever you come from.
Wanting to lose weight does NOT make you a bad fat activist.
You do not have to be fat to believe in fat acceptance.
Your body is your own to do whatever you want with.
I said very clearly in my post that even if I reach my goal size, I would still be fat. However, that’s completely irrelevant. Even if I were to shoot for being a size 6, I could still be an advocate for Fat Acceptance.
You don’t have to be a female to be a feminist. You don’t have to be a person of color to believe in racial equality. You don’t have to be LGBTQ to believe in LGBTQ rights. And likewise, you DO NOT have to be fat to support fat acceptance.
I don’t think being my size is bad. I don’t think it’s ugly or undesirable or wrong. But for me personally, it’s not where I want to be. And I am entitled to that. It does not make me any less a part of the movement that I fight so hard for.